“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
—Christopher Robin to Pooh, A.A. Milne
There are moments in life where everything seems to be falling into place, where the birds are sweetly chirping while perched on a beautiful tree. The sun is shining brightly on a cloudless day and there isn’t a worry in the world. The last few months at work have been amazing. I’ve been planting seeds for a long time, with the results finally blooming. My dreams of traveling for work are coming true and I’ve been a part of some incredible new opportunities that will up-level my hair and makeup career.
A few days ago, while at work I received a phone call that sent me into panic mode. In an instant I felt broken and it caused me to quickly analyze every aspect of my life. My mind went to the worst case scenario. I knew that this would somehow impact my future and that I would need to make some adjustments. I tried to remain calm, but for the past few days, it’s been a battle that has brought up a lot of different emotions. It’s like I’m in a daze and have to constantly remind myself to stay grounded and not give into my anxiety. Through it all, I’ve reminded myself that it’s ok to be vulnerable and to feel emotions.
I struggled to write this blog post as I currently fight feelings of wanting to bury my head in the sand and isolate myself from the world. In my heart, I know that I’m going through this storm for a reason even if it isn’t evident to me at the moment. It’s forced me to examine the people and things in my life that need improvement and shed light on how I can be a more compassionate human.
What to Do When You Get Unexpected Bad News
Take a deep breath. You don’t need to find the solution immediately
Take as much time as you need to process the new information
Avoid jumping to conclusions
Figure out your responsibility and what you can do
Cry if you need to
Seek to understand yourself and the situation
Find healthy ways to vent your emotions
Make a plan
Pray or meditate
Sit outside under the sunshine
Find a way to pamper yourself and connect to your body
Count your blessings, it’s easy to lose sight of the good things in life
Find a professional to speak to
Harness your inner strength
Do’s/Don’t’s to say/do to someone who’s received unexpected news
- “I’m so sorry you are going through this.”
- “Is there anything I can do to help?”
- “I am here for you”
- “Would you like to grab a coffee/tea?”
- “This must be very, very tough for you.”
- “Don’t worry about it”
- “I’m sure you’ll be fine”
- “Things will work out for the best,” or even worse, “I was afraid something like this would happen.”
- Don’t say that what happened to somebody else is even worse than what happened to them.
- Don’t redirect the attention back to you.
- Don’t assume the person wants to be left alone
Surround yourself with supportive people. This one is obvious but in our worst moments, we are able to see who our friends truly are
If your family/friend is going through a difficult time check up on them often. Put yourself in their shoes and treat them exactly how you’d like to be treated. Kindness goes a long way and what you put out to the universe you’ll receive.
Life is filled with many ups and downs and at some point, you’ll encounter difficult moments and even wonder how you’ll make it through. Finding peace within is vital. How do you deal with it will help define the outcome. Know that we cannot control how things transpire, but how we react to them. Trust that everything will work out for your highest good. Most importantly don’t give up.
Your life is a testament. No matter how much pain you’ve suffered, how much loss you’ve experienced and how unsteady the future seems, keep rising. Have faith and trust that miracles can happen.