This week I’m 34 weeks pregnant. Baby V will be here in less than 6 weeks! Throughout the last eight and a half months, I’ve made the conscious effort to be mindful of my thoughts. I’m a firm believer that the state of mind I’m in will not only affect me but my unborn baby. Right before I became pregnant, I faced a lot of anxiety; I had no idea what my conception journey would look like, and how life would be after I conceived. When I found out I was pregnant, I had a sense of calm and knowingness, but some things surfaced that I knew needed to change. I’ve had emotions that range from fear of the future to memories of the past, but I know that this is part of the process, coming up because they need to be addressed.
Early on, I established a connection with my daughter (read more here), one that began before she was conceived. I talk to her every day, read to her and tell her how much she is loved. A few months ago, I purchased a book called “Lana the Llama who wants to be a Unicorn,”
a self love short story about Lana, who wishes with all of her being that she will be something other then what she is. She even goes to the lengths of dressing up as a unicorn, believing she will be happier. Concerned, her parents talk to her and tell her that she is perfect the way she is, but she is still not convinced. She finally listens after a unicorn tells how unique and perfect she is. She is beautiful, being a Llama, and doesn’t need to change. The unicorn says, “There is magic inside you just the way you are!” I hope it will be your mantra too.
When I became a makeup artist, I was shocked at the number of women who apologize as soon as they sit in my chair, usually pointing out something they dislike about themselves. “Make me look younger”, “Can you make my eyes look bigger? They’re so small”. “Can you shave off my double chin?” I hate my nose, can you make it look smaller?” These are women from all walks of life, pointing out things that I would have never even noticed, but to them, it’s all very real. We’ve all been around family or friends (or even said it ourselves), “I’ll be happy once I lose 10 lbs” or “I don’t feel like myself without makeup”, but these are all temporary fixes. It’s easy to think that we can achieve inner happiness or fulfillment if we change our outward appearance. We forget that we are not only our bodies but spiritual beings with souls. Although we may change our appearance, the damaging things we say to ourselves will remain, affecting our daily lives and sinking deeply into our subconscious minds.
Every day I have a ritual where I rub oil that I’ve made specifically for my belly infused with positive intentions. This is a time where I send love to my entire body, accepting it exactly as it is. While my skin is still damp, I rub the oil and say, “I love and accept you exactly as you are.” I’m not only speaking to myself but also establishing a connection with the baby where she will feel accepted. I remember when I was young and absorbing everything I came into contact with. I had strong women in my life, but I also had interactions with those who had poor self-images. It made me question myself and shed a spotlight on my insecurities. Children will mimic what they see in the world around them, and I want to make sure that I’m a positive influence in my child’s life. I want Baby V to know that she can love herself the way she is and that there is incredible power in loving herself. Once we can accept ourselves, we become unstoppable.
In the last few months, I’ve gone back to a consistent meditation practice, which I believe is vital for anyone, especially if you’re expecting. For me, it helps to clear my mind, keep me calm, and get rid of any anxiety I may have been feeling. Meditation works on rewiring our brains and habits. I’m on day 20 of 40 of a special meditation to clear ancestral karma. I believe that we can pass specific attributes from our lineage to our children. I want to make sure that when Baby V gets here, I have worked on as much as I can to clear the negative self-talk and past from our lives and that she is aware that although I am flawed, I am a work in progress.
Are you practicing self love? Self love isn’t only about pampering yourself, it’s also how you think and speak. What are some words you could remove from your vocabulary? Whenever you find yourself saying something negative, try replacing it with 2 positive things. Break the habit.
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